Understanding Each Other

An important part of effective communication is the ability to understand and be understood. This includes the ability to express a particular meaning, making choices and negotiating with others. Children are eager to understand the meaning of adults' communications and it is important that the adults they are in contact with are equally keen to understand and respond to the meaning of theirs.

Young Babies (0-8 months)

From the very start of life, young babies express messages about what they want and need, as well as how they feel. Pay attention to how your baby influences adult behaviour and the ways in which different adults respond. Try to 'tune into' the different messages you baby is attempting to express and let them know that you understand what they're saying; for example when they are hungry, tired, happy or sad.

Babies (8-18 months)

Babies learn that their voice and actions have effects on others and they strive to share meanings. Take some time to understand and note the personal words your baby creates as they begin to develop language. Respond to what they show you they're interested in and want to do by providing activities, stories and games. Give them the opportunity to make choices; such as which bib to wear, which spoon to choose, the size of paintbrush to use, to go outdoors or stay in.

Young Children (18-24 months)

Young children use actions and words to make and justify choices and influence the behaviour and responses of others. Try to notice the ways in which your child negotiates with adults and other children and the circumstances in which this takes place. Respect their choices and encourage their growing ability to negotiate and bargain with you. To develop their understanding, look at pictures or photos that express specific messages; such as a child in conflict with an adult, taking on a role or choosing a biscuit.

Children (2-3 years)

As their vocabulary increases, children make sense of the world through questioning, describing, labelling, bargaining and negotiating. Notice how your child shows what they understand from what they do and say; for example, their actions, questions and use of new words. Talk to them about choices, reasons for doing things in a certain way and explain why sometimes you say "No". Develop their understanding of situations by providing play opportunities in which they can take on different roles and you can help them to communicate; for example home, shop, hospital play.